Free Red Flags & Match Clarity Checklist
A printable checklist for host families and au pairs who are close to saying yes, but want to reflect calmly on daily life, expectations, possible red flags and values match first.
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Use it after a video call, before a second call or when you feel unsure about a possible match.
Download checklist PDF →When to use this checklist
Use this checklist when a match seems possible, but you want to check whether the practical details and values match are clear enough. It is not about finding a perfect match. It is about noticing what still needs a calm follow-up before anyone says yes.
Daily life clarity
- I understand what a normal weekday would look like.
- The busiest moments of the day have been discussed.
- Tasks and expectations feel clear, not vague.
- Both sides understand what is not part of the role.
Children and childcare fit
- The children’s personalities and routines have been discussed honestly.
- Difficult moments with the children have been mentioned realistically.
- The au pair’s comfort level with the children’s ages and needs feels clear.
- The first weeks of childcare support have been discussed.
Communication and feedback
- Both sides can ask practical questions without pressure.
- Feedback style has been discussed.
- There is a clear way to ask questions during the first weeks.
- Difficult or unclear moments can be discussed calmly.
Values match
- Parenting style and daily family values feel compatible.
- Privacy, free time and family involvement have been discussed.
- Reliability, flexibility and independence mean similar things to both sides.
- The way both sides handle conflict or unclear expectations feels healthy.
Possible red flags
- I do not feel rushed to say yes.
- Important questions are not being avoided.
- The answers feel consistent and realistic.
- My doubts are being taken seriously.
Final decision
- The match feels warm, clear and realistic.
- Any remaining doubts have been named.
- One more follow-up question or call is planned if needed.
- I am saying yes because it feels right, not because I feel pressured.